Sunday, November 27, 2016

Our Podcast Interview (Part Two)


I'm so happy to share with you PART TWO of our podcast interview on the Indian Interracial Marriages podcast!

If you didn't get a chance to tune in to Part One, listen to it HERE!

In Part Two, we delve deeper by talking about the moment my daughter announced that she was vegetarian, the cultural identity of mixed kids, husband-ji's well-known picky eating habits, differences in parenting styles, gender roles, compatibility & respect in marriage, and allowing desi parents the time & space to get used to your intercultural relationship.

Click HERE to listen to our interview.
Click HERE to subscribe to this wonderful podcast on iTunes.

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Dear readers, can you relate to any of the topics discussed?

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Monday, November 21, 2016

Our Family Vacation to Disneyland


Last month, we decided to do something really special. Being conscious of the fact that our baby will be arriving early next year, we wanted to do a special trip with Maya - her last "hurrah" as an only child! We decided to take off of work/school during a random weekday and head down to Disneyland - in California. It was only a 2 hour flight from Vancouver so it was really easy. We thought about bringing my in-law's too (who currently live with us) but we thought it would be better to go as just the 3 of us, and take my in-law's with us next time.


It was a very, very special trip. It gave us time to really bond with our daughter one-on-one. We made so many unforgettable memories. The whole trip was completely dedicated to her and she was just over the moon! We had so much fun as a family and we both rode on all the rides with her.


Maya was really the perfect age to go, as she is so active now that she was not easily tired. This Summer, when it was too hot to venture out of the house, Maya and I watched all the classic Disney films - Snow WhiteSleeping BeautyCinderellaBambi  - so she was able to recognize all the characters and princesses and was really excited about meeting them.



It was also the perfect time to go during my pregnancy. I had a lot of energy in my second trimester, and we wanted to go before I entered the third trimester no-fly zone.


I remember my parents taking me to Disneyland when I was younger, so it was so amazing to see my own daughter experience it for the first time and see it through her eyes. Husband-ji had also never been to Disneyland before, and although he usually hates doing kid stuff, he also had a great time. Disneyland - as compared to when I visited in the 90's - is even better now and well-thought out. It is so family friendly and it's just the most fun place for kids.


I would love to return back in a few years when Maya is older - it is really a place that kids can keep experiencing as they get older. Maya was so happy about the trip and she said that next time, she will take "her baby" (her sibling) on all the rides!


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Saturday, November 19, 2016

Now Featured On: Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast!


I'm so excited to share with you that we are featured on the latest episode of Indian Interracial Marriages podcast! This podcast is a wonderful resource for those of us in masala partnerships and it's about time that we have a station like this which directly reflects our growing community.

This podcast was a bit unique because husband-ji joined me in the discussion! Most of my readers have heard so much about him, yet have never heard his side of the story, so I think it will be interesting for you guys to listen in to his perspective. I sure found it interesting to hear his thoughts...and OMG he has a sexy voice when I listen to it!

On this podcast, we discussed the randomness of how we first met, how we dealt with naysayers over the years, the shocking moment husband-ji told his mom about me, the importance of grandparents, and our current joint-family household.

Part two of our interview will be released next Friday, so stay tuned!!!

Click HERE to listen to our interview.
Click HERE to subscribe to this wonderful podcast on iTunes.

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Friday, November 18, 2016

Ask Firangi Bahu: "I feel like we have nowhere to turn..."

(Img via Atlas Green)

"Hi Firangi Bahu,

I have been reading your blog for a while and I don't know where to turn. I don't know if you can offer me any advice, but this is a cry for help to the universe. I am looking for answers.

Here's my story: I'm an American and my husband is from India. We have two children who are currently in elementary school - my daughter is in Kindergarten and my son is in Grade 3. I work part-time from home and handle the children. My husband has a good job, but he is here on a work visa. He doesn't have his green card yet. We live in a large city in the American Midwest. I met my husband here when he was doing his Master's degree at my American university and we were married shortly after.

Last week, we watched in horror as Trump was elected and now we are doubting the future in this country. The state where we live is full of Republicans. We have had to deal with racism over the years, but nothing was as bad as last week. My children were bullied at school for "looking Mexican" and told by classmates that they would be "deported", even though they are American born and bred!!! When I was voting, a white man standing beside me remarked that he "couldn't wait until all the terrorists get kicked out", and he pointed to a Sikh man standing only yards away. Who could have been my husband. My husband has also faced numerous situations of bullying - at work, and even when he's been out grocery shopping. He doesn't feel like his job is secure. Frankly, it has been horrific for months. Many of our friends are dealing with the same thing, but they can't leave. We do not feel safe. We have both discussed a plan to leave the U.S. to a safer, more tolerant country. We have discussed renting out our house and maybe returning to the U.S. when it is more safe and when we can trust the leadership and the government. I feel like it's only a matter of time before my husband loses his job, or we are the victim of a hate crime. I'm not willing to expose my children to years and years of an intolerant dictatorship under Trump. This week was bad enough. I have lost all my faith in my country. For our family's safety, I'm not waiting to stick around until it gets better. I'd rather leave entirely for somewhere better, and live as an expat.

I have always thought of India as another possibility for us. A lot of Americans don't have the option of fleeing to their spouse's country, so in that way at least I felt fortunate. However, my husband's family lives in New Delhi and I have serious concerns about the air quality and also my personal safety as a foreign woman. Recently, our relatives have not been able to step outside because the smog has been at an all-time high. They said that even the air inside the house is bad.

I feel like we have nowhere to turn - my country has become a hotpot for racist attacks, and my husband's country has become physically unbreathable. It's like a nightmare come true...."

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Dear readers, what would YOU do if you were in the reader's position?
Helpful advice / brainstorming / solutions welcome...

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